Why I'm Rethinking What I Watch

Full disclaimer before you read: I've been really nervous to share this post with you guys! I really felt like it was something I needed to share but please know I'm NOT judging your choices, I'm just sharing why I'm making some adjustments and the impact it's had on ME.

Ever heard that quote that says something like be careful who you spend your time with because you become most like the 5 people you spend the most time around? I feel like that applies to the media we expose ourselves to as well.  Books, TV, movies, music, it all affects our minds, thoughts, reactions and morals more than we realize. I think I always knew that but didn't really realize how much of an effect it had on me until the past year or so.  What's really crazy is how when you are just listening to it subliminally in the background it just gets in your mind.  Media is DESIGNED to be this way.  And it really works.  This can be a good thing if we expose ourselves to good media and can be a bad thing if it's the wrong media.

Crazy example:  About a year ago, I started binge listening to Gossip Girl while I worked.  All day I would just listen to it in my ear buds while I worked on paperwork, etc.  I had seen the show before so it was like having a podcast to listen to.  One day I was sitting in traffic and someone said or did something and I said something out loud that I swear sounded JUST LIKE something they would say on the show.  It wasn't bad or foul, just with the Gossip Girl attitude tone and not a saying I would EVER say.  I can't even remember exactly what it was, I just remember being shocked and thinking "WOW!  I've been watching way too much of that show!"

The attitudes, tones and language of that show had gotten into my brain and directly affected the words coming out of my mouth without me realizing it.  How scary is that? 

Flashing back to current time, I've started realizing as I watch my "fave shows" that I don't like the people on them, I don't want to be anything like them and some of them promote a lack of morality that I'm just not okay with.  I have deleted several old favorites off my DVR because of this.  I'm not giving up TV or saying I'll never watch anything unless it's morally perfect.  I'm just saying that I've become more aware of what I spend my time watching and how it effects me on a daily basis.  Focusing on trying to add in more positive and encouraging and reduce the opposite.

At work, I used to watch 8 hours of the news.  All day, every day.  It put me in such a bad mood some days & I just had it on in the background!  Honestly, the 24 hour news cycle is just too much.  I've realized that having it on, even when I'm not paying full attention, brings me down.  Now, I allow myself a few hours of news in the morning and then I switch over to listening to a podcast or even better SILENCE.  This had a huge impact on my day and my mood at the end of it.

We only have so many hours in a day and working a demanding job plus running a side business doesn't leave me much time to read/watch TV/listen to music.  I've decided to try to use that time to read books that help me grow as a person, Christian and business owner and listen/watch things that have a good influence on me.  This goes for at home and at work.

This may sound totally crazy to you but just know that any form of media is purposefully designed to get your attention and stick in your brain.  Whether you realize it or not, your words, actions, choices and moral code are affected by what you expose yourself to through the media or the people you choose to spend time around. 

I would love to hear your thoughts below but please keep it friendly!  


  1. This is one of the reasons why I started reading more. I also turn the T.V. off during the day. What I would see on the news, a show, or an article started making me feel bad about how I am living my life. It sounds crazy but like you said it gets into your brain. Reading has been great for me though and I feel a lot better. I also have this app called Calm and you can listen to relaxing music or sounds which has helped me too. Anyways...Thank you for sharing and I hope that you have a great day! :-)

  2. I honestly don't watch the news much anymore, save for it being on in the background during the 4-5 p.m. hour while I'm trying to get dinner prepared and just need some noise. (I used to sit down and watch The Today Show pre-kids, but now I don't have time anymore!) I don't like how the news is purposely demeaning my political party and those in it, and I also don't like how a lot of it is so one-sided. I don't keep the TV on most of the day and only have a handful of shows I'll watch on DVR with Brandon (or on Netflix when he's traveling). My mom always said, "What's in your heart is going to come out of your mouth," and it's so very true!

  3. I so agree! I've always been affected by what's around me - friends and TV/movies especially and it's something I really have to focus on. I try to minimize the junk/trash TV (although I do enjoy a good show every once and a while) and notice it really helps. One of my co-workers was talking about a podcast she occasionally listens to, I listened to 1 episode and had to stop because how dirty and vulgar it was, mainly from her language. I knew I would start talking like that if I listened to it often! Everything we take in definitely makes a difference.

  4. I very much agree with you!!! I have felt convicted over watching or listening to certain things so a few years ago, I just quit those things! What we fill our mind with becomes us and I would much rather fill it with something wholesome rather than filth.
    Sarah at MeetTheShaneyfelts

  5. We've cut back on the news since the holidays and it has made a big difference in how I feel on a daily basis. I struggle with some stuff still, but I don't feel nearly as volatile since I cut back on that. Honestly, aside from the Superbowl, I don't know if we've watched anything in real time since before Christmas!

  6. I can't watch the news because it's just so depressing and negative, and I really need to reel it in with all the "trash tv" I consume on a regular basis. It's amazing how much you absorb without even realizing it.
    Green Fashionista